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Bad Karma

Poutine makes everything better.I should have stayed in bed. I, literally should have never left it. Those days when bad mojo hovers thick like air in Hamilton on a hot, humid summer day, should automatically, be considered sick days. There’s been nothing big, (well, fixing the hot water heater might be financially big, who knows) just a series of little crappy things…little losses. It makes my little brain and little heart hurt.

Maybe you’ve seen it too….but I was tagged in a challenge on Facebook to come up with 3 positive things every day for 5 days. Today’s happy thoughts were simple though…poutine topped the list as well as not being maimed or killed whilst drowning in this vat of bad karma. The benefit of this challenge has been how it can change how I look at things, at least for a while.

Ok, it’s not so bad really, just frustrating. My woes are minuscule compared to what others are dealing with today…one friend just lost their mother and another is dealing with a broken tibia that may need surgery. Now a broken water heater, smacking my head on a cupboard door and taking a baseball to the shoulder and a glove to the face is nothing! Still doesn’t mean I don’t want to kick Karma’s a$$!


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But I like monkeys….

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I keep seeing this quote popping up on the net, “Every time you feel yourself being pulled into other people’s drama, repeat these words…..NOT MY CIRCUS, NOT MY MONKEYS.”  Not so much keen on the drama, but yes, monkeys are quite cool. My volleyball team is even made of monkeys…


Does that mean I have monkeys? 

Anyway, I am still feeling a little lost, which is why this site has fallen silent. Life has been full of stories of illness, murder, robbery, identity theft, abduction, animal cruelty…just so many reasons why a moat filled with hungry crocks would be a fantastic gardening option for my home. It’s just hard to think that my buying a stranger a cuppa joe can make a difference.

But maybe it’s not about changing the world.

Maybe it’s about changing yourself. It’s been so easy to withdraw into the safety of eremitism. After all, it’s much easier to handle loss (of any kind) when you have no one to lose right? It’s also made me lose my sense of fun.

So enough of that! I’m not letting the “bastards get me down,” as a former coworker used to say all the time. Starting yesterday, I RAK’d the lady behind me in the Tim Horton’s drive through. It’s a start right?

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Play a Little Tune

Musica comprimida  -  Compressed Music

Musica comprimida – Compressed Music (Photo credit: Ferrari + caballos + fuerza = cerebro Humano )

The power of music is amazing. It has the ability to lift your spirits when you’re blue, to make you feel energized when you’re tired, relax you when you’re anxious and much, much more. I wake each morning with a song in my head. Sometimes, the same song plays for days, other times, it’s a new song each day. It often reflects what’s going on in my life, or my mood. I’ve had this morning melody in my mind for as long as I can remember. Earworm of a different sort I guess….speaking of which, “I’m a little teapot, short and stout…….” now let’s see you get THAT out of you’re head for a few days!

After mom passed away, I had a few songs – anthems if you will – that I would listen to (or more accurately, cry to) that seemed to offer some solace. I have a couple of good girlfriends going through some really tough times right now. Knowing music can encourage and inspire, I sent a video to each of these ladies of a song that I thought was inspiring for their situations. Maybe they’ll need a custom inspirational play list….hmmm, iTunes, here I come!

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Each Small Light….

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It’s a mystery to me how someone could think to hurt those most innocent among us, our children. After the news of the tragic shooting in a Connecticut school, I found it difficult to think of any kindness I could offer anyone that wouldn’t seem moot. All those poor souls have been ripped away before they had a chance to shine.

I am at a loss. I have no act of kindness to share. It would seem callous to report such a menial thing when so many are mourning. It does strike me however, that acts of kindness are exactly what we all need more of. We need more connection to each other. Is this sort of news horrifying? Yes. Absolutely, but surprising? Not really. It seems our news is filled with far too many instances of death and destruction. When these things fill our minds it’s difficult for kindness to fill our hearts. Instead we are, understandably, filled with pain and mistrust. It’s my belief that what we need most now, is more kindness. We need to say those things to each other, the kind and loving things that often go unsaid. We need to do those kind things for each other that bring us together as people. Acts of kindness shouldn’t be so surprising, but they are while violent acts like the ones we’ve all heard of today are not. Instead of letting this monster drive us all further apart, let’s make a vow against him and others like him to draw closer and kinder to each other. To stand together to create a kinder, safer world.

Hug your children tonight and tell those you love, that you do.

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Laughter is the best medicine

This idea is completely stolen. I take zero credit for it at all. I saw it on the 366 Days of Random Acts of Kindness site and thought it was a great idea. So here it is.

Miles has been battling brain cancer for 4 years. The site was originally created by his father to lift Miles spirits as he was battling cancer. People from all over the world are submitting jokes via video to make Miles laugh. As they say, laughter is the best medicine. As the site gains popularity Miles grows closer to the goal of collecting 5000 jokes. If you have a good one, I hope you’ll consider sending it in. The site also has resources for parents and caregivers, submitted jokes and a wealth of other information.


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Giving just a little bit more…

Giving helps not only those you give to, but helps you as well. A study out of the University of British Columbia sited that those who spent money on others, regardless of the amount they spent, reported feeling happier with their lives. I’d say, that it indeed is true. Today I added just a little extra to the donation to the collection plate at church.  I’m not a regular and it just seemed appropriate that I give just a little bit more than I normally would.

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Where do we go from here?

I never intended for this to become a place for me to gripe and whine, although, I hope that the words I share might help someone else who stumbles up on them. I intended this space to be motivational. While my heart isn’t completely in this idea right now, I know mom would have wanted me to gather something positive from losing her this way. I guess I have, in that, it’s changed my perception of “tomorrow.” It may not come. Which means that the opportunity to do the things I’ve always wanted to may not come tomorrow. I may not have the chance to tell someone I love them, if I don’t do it today. I don’t think you can say that enough. I actually learned that well before mom was gone. It was something we said every time we talked and I’m glad for that.

Upon realizing these things, I decided I needed to start doing these things….now. As Steve Jobs once said, “‘If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?’ And whenever the answer has been ‘No’ for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.” While I started to adopt this philosophy a couple of years ago, it’s really hit home now. There’s a new sense of urgency about it. Who are the people who are important to me? What are the things I want to do? Where do I want to go from here? I found myself thinking of WHAT this “bucket list” would look like, while sitting with mom in the hospital. It ranged from keeping in better touch with friends, to travel, to supporting causes I believe in.

Such things as: going to Manitoba to see the polar bears, going to Alaska, to Australia, New Zealand, the Galapagos Islands, and to pet the “friendlies” in Baja California, were all obvious things for that list. But there’s so much more I want to do! I want to cultivate my friendships and learn to appreciate them in all their forms and mediums. I want to remember to look for the joy in the small things, even when things seem dire. I want to stop taking so many things for granted…I try not to, but sometimes, I do. I want to DO something that leaves an impact on the world. Something that changes things for the better. I want to leave my mark on history and hopefully inspire others to do so as well.

These are a few of the things I’m going to do…have you thought of what your “bucket” list looks like?